I jokingly refer to myself as a self-proclaimed grandma, early to bed and early to rise. Although I try and make it funny, I often feel bad or guilty that I’m not like everyone else. Mostly that I’m not “embracing my youth.” People have told me to just go “out of my box” and push myself to go out with people even if I don’t want to. I tried doing this for a while, and I just didn’t enjoy it. Then when I stopped going out I felt bad about myself, the whole predicament gave me anxiety: either go out and be unhappy, or stay in doing what I like to do and feel guilty.
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Then I found blogs. I started reading about other people who put having a healthy lifestyle and their fitness at the top of their priorities. Other “grandmas” were emerging from the woodwork and I couldn’t believe it! Reading these blogs has made me realize that I’m not a freak – there are plenty of other women my age who are just like me! The problem: I need to find them in MY life and not all across the country!
The biggest thing I’ve taken from this realization is that I just need to be me, and hopefully everything else will fall into place. If I keep doing activities that make me happy, hopefully I’ll meet other people who like doing the same thing and living the same healthy lifestyle. I’ve realized that some things are just more important to me than being like everyone else.
Has anyone else had a similar experience? Any ways that you feel “different” from everyone else but are trying to embrace?





I'm definitely the same way. I did it in college and loved it because of the people I was with, but now, I would much rather be asleep at 9:30pm on a Friday night than be out drinking. It's all a part of growing up I think. Although there are many people my age who still go out every night. But yes, you just have be you and do whatever makes you happy and feel the best!