This week was not my finest, nor my most enjoyable. I actually had a lot of great times and great moments, but I let my stress and my schedule get the better of me, rather than doing my best to handle it well.
We can’t choose what life life sends our way, but we can certainly decide how we react to whatever cards we’re dealt.
Rather than taking what I was given and approaching it with a positive and appreciative attitude, I played the victim. I complained, I let myself become stressed and overwhelmed, and worst of all I took it out on my friends around me.
Yes, we will all have our bad days, our bad weeks or even our bad seasons in life. But we are not and should not be the victims of our own circumstances. God only gives us situations that he knows we can handle and that we can learn from. Well, this week I learned! I will not play the victim of my life anymore.
I can’t access a computer all day? Boo hoo. My job is boring and tedious? At least I have one! And I’m stressed that I can’t get anything done? It will get done, breathe.
#firstworldproblems
I need to look at all the great things that I have in my life, and learn how to schedule and manage the other things that are causing me stress and a negative attitude. With some prayer, some scheduling and a better outlook, I’m hoping that next week goes much, much better.
Do you ever play the victim?
How do you handle stressful situations?
How do you change your attitude when things aren’t going well?
you have such a great outlook on this girl! praying next week is AWESOME for you! xoxo
Thank you, Brittany!
Wow this was me this week. I try to not let life control me, but it’s hard when you can’t seem to get a grip on the stressful situation. My job has one big deadline each year and it’s here now. I haven’t been the most social or friendly person 🙁 thanks for the reminder that it’s up to me to change my spin on it!
I hope your job’s deadline goes/went well!
With our new baby, I’ve encountered some typical, yet super-stressful, situations. A good cry and prayer helps me!
Haha I can imagine a new baby would cause some stress, but lots of love too! Just focus on the love part 🙂
Wow, did I ever need to see this today. Geez this morning in the matter of my hour drive to work :/ my mood managed to go from ok to almost mental breakdown by the time I got in the door…I’d say like you this week has gotten the best of me. Most of the time I try not to do this and let things get to me, but it’s hard. I have been for a while now trying to always be positive because that’s really the only way I think helps me more than hurts but sometimes I guess it’s ok or we can’t help but play the victim. Good post; thanks for the reminder 🙂
I’m so glad this came at the right time for you Rachel. I’m so sorry you’re having a rough time right now, but yes, remember that you are not a victim, you can handle this and take charge!
First World Problems says it all Katie. Good to be reminded, thank you.
Haha yes, thanks Aunt Marty!
Yes, this was me this week, as well. I even requested a meeting with my boss asking for more work, because I literally had nothing to do and was going stir crazy(I’ll probably regret that in the future when they add a bunch more to my plate). I always try to remind myself, “this too shall pass”!
Yes, every part of our life is a season!
ahhhh such a great post and i remind myself of this daily >>>> “God only gives us situations that he knows we can handle and that we can learn from.”
perfect girl
Thanks love!
The fact that you’re taking this as a learning experience and already working on shifting your perspective is so telling at how AMAZING you are! I totally have those weeks, and as much as they suck, being able to turn things around and learn from them is what really matters. Sending hugs your way and praying that next week is better! I just know it’ll be better based on your current attitude! xo
Aww thanks, Ash! This has been a HUGE learning year for me!
I’m sorry you had a stressful week! Having overcome anxiety (and still facing it at times), I often let stress get the best of me. Deep breaths really help and knowing that things could always be worse is a constant reminder. I try and do some yoga poses each night. Life isn’t easy, but it’s just making you a stronger person 🙂
Yes, deep breathes help me so much to calm down! Thanks, Alanna!!
I know the feeling – I am great at stressing myself out. What helps me a lot is making lists and prioritizing them. Often I realize I don’t have as much to do as I thought, or that some of the things aren’t actually that important. I also just really like checking stuff off on lists! Have a good weekend!
omg I’m SUCH a list person! I have a To Do list that I categorize into MUST do today and things I can do later.
After my backpack was stolen last night wi my phone and wallet, I definitely understand what you mean! This morning I have dealt with a lot of bank stuff and am waiting to get a new phone right now. Yet, I have to re,I don’t myself that there are more people out there who are trying to good than bad. I have to be a problem solver instead of complaining about what happened. Luckily, I just need to get a new I’d, backpack and wallet. Besides all the pictures lost on my phone, everything is replaceable and zi am grateful for my parents and the people in my life who have provided support. As Tom Hanks says, “I have to keep on breathing, who knows what the tide will bring.” Good luck!
Ah that really sucks, Lorin, I’m sorry that happened! But yes, it’s so important to remember that many of our struggles are such small things that we really shouldn’t stress about them!
Hey, I think we all have times that we just need to complain and that’s ok too! But yes, there are so many positive aspects and focusing on those definitely makes you feel better. In this particularly hard season, I started writing in a gratitude journal at night and it’s nice to shift my focus before bed on to things I’m grateful for that day!
SO TRUE, Emily! Sometimes we do just need to get it out and complain!
I’m sorry you had a tough week! I think it’s awesome you chose to share about it because you’ll be much less the victim now that you’ve been aware of role you felt you played. I’m so very impressed by you, Katie!
C.S. Lewis once said: ” Hardships often prepare a person for an extraordinary destiny.” 🙂
xo
Thanks Annette! My favorite posts are the ones that just come to me in the morning, I write and publish! They are straight from the heart and always make me feel better to write.
I’m sorry you had a stressful week. I definitely need reminders about changing my attitude. My 3 year old recently said “I’m so stressed out, I need to go to Hawaii”. I realized she had overheard some conversations and I really didn’t want my negative attitude or feelings of being overwhelmed affecting her. My mom always says this too shall pass and God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. Hang in there. Better days are ahead.
It’s amazing how kids pick up on things! And thanks for the encouraging words, Leah!
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I hit an incredibly low low earlier this year. It was scary. Slowly but surely I made changes from within and the rest has followed.
That’s so great, Jill! I’m glad things are going better – it’s all about working on the inside!
I find when I feel everything is out of control, I go for a run. That always seems to clear my head and give me a new perspective.
That’s great that you have that outlet, running can be the perfect time to clear your mind!